This is a WAR game! That is what i was told when stuff that happened to me that i didn't like. Now when stuff you don't like happens you whine about it, make posts here annonomously and use other rather cowardly tactics. People come and go in these types of games all the time...it's called real life. If they chose to leave because they got their butts kicked oh well...that's part of the game also. The game is set up they way it is set up. If you don't like it leave. If it turns into farmville then guess what? Time to find a new game for all. If you stay have fun!
Losing and having cities burnt isn't the problem. What people find annoying is thinking you can safely take a break from the game and then returning to find everything burning. Its agreeing a set of rules for a limited conflict and when things are going against legacy they are bent and broken such as a neutral inactive city from an alt account is suddenly used by yourselves to clear a bandit village or is placed in alert trapping our troops. You've no need to do it so why bother.
I only started enjoying this game again when I stopped trusting anything legacy say as it is obviously all part of your plan to control all four maps. I think if others did the same they probably wouldn't be getting so upset and leaving.
BTW What cowardly tactics are you referring to?