was wondering what the ratio of rec to def is.. i was going to put 5 and 6 Abosrp in my gear but now im wondering if i should do 6 absorb and 7 rec or should it be 6, 7 rec or just 5 6 absorp?

We'll need a bit more information to answer your questions.

Firstly, 1 rec is 1 defence and 5 hp. That's the easy one.

As to whether rec or absorb is better, well, it depends.

What level are you?
What is your toon for? (PvP, grinding, boss tanking, farming ... )
What sort of budget are you looking at?

As a defender/guardian you can make use of a lot of different stats:
Tank builds can use absorb, rec, dex, wis
Battle builds can use all those plus str, luck.

All the gear im talking about will be 70 Rytir i am a BG Not really any budget will be for pvp